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November 21, 2017

My Friday Night Date.


I thought a lot about writing this post, I even asked you guys on IG if you thought it was creepy to write about a date and some of you said yes, but I'm doing it anyway. I'm not gonna talk about specifics, I'm not gonna talk about the guy, where we went to or anything like. I want to talk about how I felt and some of the things that are going on in mind. 

I can feel you cringing, rolling your eyes and thinking: "what a looser.. is she really talking about a date on her blog?!". Yes, I am and I get it. I think it's a little weird too, but in case you missed my last post, I don't really care about what some people think and I really want to talk about this, so here we go!

First of all, this is not my first date in months or anything like that. I've been going on some dates here and there and trying really hard to meet people because.. well, I don't want to live with my cat for the rest of my life. I don't care what anybody says, wanting to meet someone to share your life with is not stupid or silly or needy. Humans need other humans - that's why we live in societies and whatnot. Yeah, I know stuff.. I read The Sapiens. 

However, this was the first date in months that I was excited about. The guys I've been meeting are just "not deep enough". I know it sounds stupid to describe people like that, but it's how it feels sometimes. They were always talking about shallow stuff, making fun of people that cared about something and just talking nonsense.. One guy even made fun of the fact that I was a vegetarian and kept shoving a burger in my face (he was joking but still..) That's why I kinda stopped going on dates. I became more selective. Before I thought: well, at least I'll get a good story out of it. However, the stories weren't worth it. 

So, when I met this guy I was already excited. We clicked real fast but things moved very slowly. When he asked me out (like really asked me out just the two of us), I was pumped. And not just because I was going out with a cute guy or getting attention, but because I felt like, for the first time in months, I was going out with a guy that had something to say. 

We didn't talk about international politics, the economy or philosophy.. But we didn't talk about going to parties, getting wasted and dating apps either. We talked about ourselves, our hobbies, the fact that I hate going to the gym and the new justice league movie. He told me his parents were born in Ireland and the entire family came to Brazil in 60's and I told him that my family has a weird obsession with Disney and my parents go to Disney World at least once every two years. We bonded over things we have in common and that was nice. 

The reason why I wanted to write this post is because I had a simple, normal date, right? We went out for dinner, had some drinks, talked about our lives and he dropped me off at my house at a reasonable hour. However, this normal date is not what normal is anymore. The guys I've been meeting (not just me, my friends too) are all so "weird" - I don't think our generation knows how to go on dates anymore. Asking a girl out for dinner and a movie feels like a "serious" date, like a boyfriend and girlfriend thing, so guys and girls end up asking people out to go to a bar or a party and just hang.. 

Like, I don't know how to hang. If I'm going on a date is because I want to talk to you and I want to know what you're all about. Do you have a job? Do you like to travel? Are you a murder? Are you into hard drugs? Do you have a crazy ex-wife that is going to find me on Facebook and try to friend me? That last one sounds insane, but it happens. People don't want to show interest and risk not being cool. Nowadays, cool means indifferent and finding a guy that doesn't believe in that is hard. The single ladies out there are going to agree with me, I'm sure. 

My Friday night date was fun, light and refreshing. We had good food and a good conversation. I don't know where things are going. I don't even know if we're going out again or not - our texts so far have been very chill and funny, no one mentioned anything about another date but that's not the point of this post. I guess I just wanted to vent and talk about the fact that most guys my age are very douchey and kinda shallow and going out with someone that wasn't was really, really nice.

If he finds out I have a blog, I'm screwed. Actually, maybe not. I said only nice things about the date. Just know that not everything was wonderful. There weren't any red flags, but we didn't see eye to eye on everything. Anyway, I'm just crossing my fingers he doesn't decide to google me. Let me know on the comments if you agree with the things I said. I'd love to know what you have to say about dating nowadays and if you'd like, you can share some stories with us!  

Do you agree?
Do you disagree?

Let's hang some more!

Thanks so much for reading and come back soon! 

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November 20, 2017

Daily Mantras For A Better Week.

Happy Monday, everyone!


I hope you're all having a great start to your week and that you woke up feeling happy and excited about today and the week. I just woke up feeling sleepy and sore from my Sunday workout, but hey, we can get excited together right now. It is going to be a slow week for me (today is a bank holiday in my city), I can already tell, but I still have a lot to get done. 

I need to start planning my December posts (I feel like every blogger already has their December posts ready to go and I have no idea what I'm doing), I need to plan out my work outs and I desperately need to do laundry - I've been wearing the same dress for a week because all my jeans are dirty. Anyway, we're all busy, we're all getting things done, so let's get to the mantras! 
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THE MANTRAS

MONDAY // I allow great things to happen to me.

TUESDAY // What we do today is what matters most.

WEDNESDAY // Nothing is permanent. Good or bad.

THURSDAY // Trust your gut.

FRIDAY // With change comes opportunity.

SATURDAY // I honor my potential with every action.

SUNDAY // Now is as good a time as any. 

I hope you guys enjoy the mantras and I really hope they help you have a better and more productive week. Whenever you feel burned out, scared or anxious, take a breather.. Get a snack, drink some water or go for a walk and try to concentrate on one of these mantras. Say it to yourself over and over again and I dare you not to get pumped and excited about tackling your to-do list and get things done. Let me know on the comments what you guys have planned for this week so we can cheer each other on!



What's your favorite mantra this week?
What's on your to-do list today?

Let's hang some more!



Thanks so much for reading and I'll talk to you soon! 


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November 18, 2017

Why I (Sometimes) Don't Give A F*ck!

Heeello, everyone!


Today's topic is a bit weird, as you can guess from the title. This year has been a very interesting year for me. I've made a lot of personal changes: I quit my job, I tried yoga, I decided to become a minimalist, I started volunteering.. You might say I'm turning into a hippie without the dreadlocks and a lot of makeup - that's a joke, hippies are wonderful, you do you and love yourself. 

In this process of getting to know myself better and trying out new things, I've realized that I paid waaaay too much attention to what other people thought of me. If you've read my post about Living My Truth, you already know this but, just like a lot of people, I would lie in order to make them feel better and do all these little day-to-day things that would add up and make me feel not genuine and not like an overall nice person. Here I was lying to people in order to "be nice" or not hurt their feelings, but in the end that was affecting me in a negative way and it wasn't helping anyone. 

I decided to, of course, start telling the truth even when it wasn't convenient, but sometimes that would make me feel awkward and just, again, like not a very nice person. If a person asks you to go somewhere you don't want to go and you say no, they're bound to ask you why and if you're answer is "because I don't want to".. You're just gonna feel bad about it! So, I thought: well, I'm not feeling good telling the truth, but I'm also not feeling good lying, what to do? And the answer came to me through my wise, wise mom. She basically repeated in other words something I always say here on the blog: you do you. 

I'm doing the right thing. Telling the truth is universally known as the right thing to do, so why the heck do I need to feel bad about it? I can't feel responsible for other people's feelings just like I can't allow people to make me feel anything I don't want to feel. If me being honest upsets you, I'm sorry but I'm not gonna start lying and making up excuses. 

That's where not giving a f*ck comes in the conversation. If you're doing the right thing, if you're not trying to hurt people and if you're putting yourself first in situations where you should put yourself first, don't give a flying f*ck about what people think or do or say. Of course this doesn't apply to every situation. I'm all for giving f*cks to things that matter, like volunteering, caring about the environment, helping people whenever you can and just being nice on your everyday life. 

However, when it comes to limiting yourself because of what other people might think, not being true to yourself or stretching yourself thin in order to please others? I say f*ck that! Prioritizing your goals and your overall health is not wrong or selfish. Don't get me wrong, caring is awesome. We all should care more about ourselves, others, the environment, politics and all that good stuff in my opinion. On the other hand, sometimes, prioritizing you and caring about you should came first. You can't pour from an empty cup, right? 

What do you give a f*ck about?

Let's hang some more!

Thanks so much for reading and come back soon!